We are all looking for that man who says no.
The movie Georgia Rule captures the essence of the attempt to find that man.
Lindsey Lohan plays Rachel, a girl struggling to fill the emptiness inside of her. The audience finds her to be audacious, scandalous and mostly promiscuous. She’s a brat who breaks the rules and flies by her own agenda. However, throughout the movie, it’s revealed that she suffers from a past mottled by molestation and rape committed by her step-father. The hurt left her confused, distraught, and hunting for any way to hide from the pain.
So, when she reaches Hull, Idaho, where her God-fearing grandmother lives, she pursues the men of the town; one is Simon, an older veterinarian, and, the second, a Mormon named Harlan. After befriending poor Harlan, she lures him into cheating on his girlfriend, June. Days afterward, they argue.
“Maybe I was just looking for someone to say no? And I thought you were it. But you touched me and you see that gives me the right to do anything,” she said, disheartened. “Harlan, you were supposed to be religious.”
“I should’ve said no!” he exclaims.
I believe most girls have a similar story. The people, places, and specific actions may differ, but the same desolateness protrudes from our wounds.
We were used and so we continue to let ourselves be used, because we think we can the find the validation for which we are so desperately searching.
We give in, we let go, and the man we expect to raise us up pushes us further down in the deep waters of detriment.
We all await the man who says no. It is that man to whom we wish one day to say yes, I do. The man who puts your best interest ahead of his own. The man who puts God in the forefront. The man who will love you and cherish you for no other reason than he just does. Sex won’t be the only thing tying him to you. Instead, it will be the most beautiful thing you can share with him, a supplemental bond to bring you closer together – not to heal you.
Instead of having sex because you are empty, it will be because you are full.
Where are these men? We can’t find them while we are searching for them. We must be searching for God, keeping Him in the forefront of our own minds. We must stop giving in and find the strength in God’s everlasting love to say no.
Start praying for your husbands – your future husbands. Keep them close to your heart and pray that God is molding them for you, just as His precious hands are working on you.
God, please guide me and continue to shape me in Your image. Prepare me for my future husband. Let me be the wife I’m meant to be; forgiving, full of grace, loving, respectful, and strong. Let me keep You in the forefront of my mind so I shall not be lost on my path. Thank You for everything You give me. I love you, Father.
